@UnpleasantBug : I know! What a little sweetie she is. Most of the time.
@UnpleasantBug : I know! What a little sweetie she is. Most of the time.
WORLD SPACE PARTY FOR THOSE NOT ON FACEBOOK
#nsfw but not actually because there is a cat
@Anonymous: I don't think you can. I think this is something that needs professional treatment. Maybe he won't hurt you, but you cannot be responsible for him not hurting himself.
You can offer emotional support, understanding, and things like that, but you can't take on the responsibility for someone's self-harm.
@la.donna.pietra: Sorry, I should have clarified - I don't think there are just two personality types. It's not that I don't think there are some people that can handle it and some that can't, but rather, the line between those two types is fuzzy to me. It might take a while for someone to get used to it, but they can handle it, whereas someone else might not ever like it, you know?
And with this particular person, I don't think it'd ever work for him long-term, but it seems to be okay short-term, so there seems to be some leeway here that I'm not sure how to best deal with.
@Artemis47: That first part is how I've always seen jealousy. It's pretty much always been about fear for me - fear that I'm not good enough/will be judged/etc. He says he doesn't feel it that way, which I suppose is possible, but I don't quite understand it.
Do you think the second kind can be set aside? And if so, how?
@1girl is Captain Buzzkill: That's interesting! I just didn't really see it that way. I'll have to think on that more. I definitely think it's a composite emotion, so that's a shift in viewpoint.
@la.donna.pietra: When I first started this type of relationship, I struggled with it. It took a while to be okay with it, but now I am. I don't think it's quite so black-and-white, you know?
This isn't a long-term relationship (it has an expiration date because of relocation), and he's willing to give it a go, but he isn't sure how to handle that, so I'm kinda crowdsourcing on what people think.
@la.donna.pietra: I've definitely seen that happen (it's part of why I think that possessiveness/jealousy is unhealthy, even in monogamous relationships).
How do you think is the best way to not feel jealous or possessive?
